So, you have gone through the entire interview process and been offered a new position. You inform your employer that you are leaving and then it hits you - the counteroffer.

This is great! Right? They want you stay - can't bear the thought of you leaving.

This is a pivotal point in your career advancement. It is critical to know in advance how you will handle the situation. Before you get carried away by the emotion ("You like me! You really like me!" Sally Fields, the Oscar's 1984) think about what is occuring:

A counteroffer may be extremely appealing in the short term, but in the long run its effects can be haunting. There are exceptions, but accepting a counteroffer will place you on uncertain footing with your management, peers and subordinates. It could become a hidden agenda for others in the organization.

So, first of all, think long and hard about what prompted you to consider making a change in the beginning. Then apply some critical thinking about whether the organization can truly bring about the changes that would induce you to stay. Is the counteroffer only a band aide?

Secondly, write a well thought out resignation letter that thanks your employer for the past opportunity they provided. Firmly state in the letter that your decision is final and that they should respect your wishes.

Here is additional food for thought from other sources including The Wall Street Journal Executive Career Site:

• Should You Accept Your Employer's Counteroffer?
• Are Counteroffers A Blessing or a Curse?
• Why Counteroffers Are Lose-Lose Propositions
• Accepting a Counteroffer Can Be the Road to Ruin
• Counteroffers